Two Erotic Massages to Go, Please~

Imagine for a moment that you know someone who is so skilled in the erotic arts that people pay large sums of money for his or her services. Imagine the luxury of walking into a place and knowing sexual gratification awaits you—nothing more, nothing less. Such people and places exist, of course, and on this date you and your lover will become those experts and inhabit such forbidden spaces.

This is a fantasy date. You or your partner will briefly become a sex professional. Playing the role—to experience its power and learn from it—is different from prostitution. Whether or not people should trade sexual contact for money is a topic for a different publication. Without shame or embarrassment, you should be able to give your partner an experience that’s just about sex. Without resentment or hostility, you should be able to receive sexual gratification from your partner. The power of such experiences and their scarcity in most relationships is why the world’s oldest profession, sex work, continues to flourish.

Romantic sexuality, the kind your relationship is built upon, has an implied reciprocity. You do something nice for your partner; your partner does something nice for you. This date asks you to suspend that way of thinking and touch your lover just because he or she wants it. What you’ll get back will be of value, but it won’t feel like a trade.

On this date you or your lover will prepare an environment soaked in sexuality and invite the other to visit.

It is possible, even easy, to create an erotically charged environment without touching someone’s genitals, if you intend to do so.

Intention is the real difference between the massages. Your hands will communicate what your mind wants to create. When you let your partner know you are trying to create a seductive situation, his or her body will respond in ways that will delight you both.

When you and your partner become courtesan and client, you’ll realize that the courtesan has the real power in the relationship. Most of it comes from having permission to be unambiguously sexual. As the courtesan, feel like you own the erotic space you’re creating. Act as if you know exactly how to touch someone sexually, even if you feel insecure. Whoever is playing the client should be respectful, even awed, and behave with tremendous gratitude.