The courtesan knows that erotic massage should unfold in waves. The arousal pattern experienced by both men and women is this: initial excitement followed by relief relaxation, next rebuilding excitement, then trust-establishing relaxation and finally orgasmic excitement. Lighter, quicker touch excites, and slower, deeper touch relaxes. When touching a man, try some variation of the following touch sequence:

Make a Y-shape on the back by running the heels of your open hands directly up from the base of the spine and across the shoulder blades, then cup your hands at the neck in a gentle squeeze to drain out the tension. Breathe deeply to encourage your client to follow your lead and relax into the relief of knowing that his sexual needs will be met. Repeat the Y and squeeze, then slowly move up the back with relaxed fingers and an open palm. Follow a path about a finger’s width from the spine, then two fingers away and then three. Move the heel of your hand underneath the scapula. Finally, make tiny circles with all your fingers, but not your thumbs, around the base of the neck.

Connect the upper and lower body with long, open-handed strokes. Move slowly and avoid the interior thighs. Instead, massage his gluteus muscles as if you were kneading bread. Use the same technique on the calves and thighs. Every so often, reconnect all parts of the body with long flowing strokes.

After about fifteen minutes, or when his breathing has deepened and his cock is no longer rock hard, let your hands become lighter and wake up the tiny hairs on his body by running your fingertips from his heels to his head. Dance lightly along the inside of his thighs and, for the first time, touch his perineum, the space between the anus and testicles. He will stir in anticipation. Whisper, “Time to turn over,” after sliding your nipples along his back.

Using a light touch, move your fingertips over his chest, brushing his nipples into erection. Allow your hands to work down the entire body like feathers. Pass close to his penis without deviating to touch it, and return to work on his neck and head. The second wave of arousal feels so good and has a sweet teasing quality. Making little circles under the neck, your hands are now assisted by gravity. Allow the wave to crest and relaxation to begin by letting the head sink into your fingers at the occiput, the space between the head and neck.

Encourage a contented sigh with your own breath as you make circles around his temples, then slide your hands like a rake under his back. Support the arm with one hand at the elbow. Shake hands with the other, rotating the biceps and tracing the stringy muscles of the forearm down to the wrist.